sick people

when someone is sick all the platitudes in the world don't help.  let me reiterate.  they DON'T help. 

I have R.A.  I have fibromyalgia.  no, it's not true that "just losing some weight" will help either disease.  It's also not true that I can just eat better to rid myself of these diseases...

I have high blood pressure.  telling me to "just relax" and "chill" isn't helpful.  In fact, it's the opposite.  it does nothing resembling help, it just irritates. 

See, I eat well, i walk at least three times a week, i work out at Curves three times or more a week.  I do all the "right" things...and I have high bp.  I take the herbs, I relax as much as I can with five children at home...don't tell me to just relax.  It's not that simple. First, I'm deep into raising babies to adults, helping my husband run his business, and trying to get my own going too.  I don't "just relax".  it is scheduled into my day. 

If you want to help someone who has an illness, then do me a solid.  Tell them that you love them.  Tell them you'll pray.  If you are a medical professional, then offer constructive help.  do NOT tell them to relax.